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Murari , interested in socio-economic issues. Jul, 31 2016

Is the increasingly fashionable approach of Attachment parenting the right way to raise a child


It’s the increasingly fashionable approach, with an emphasis on baby-wearing, co-sleeping and long-term breastfeeding. But does it make for happier, better children?

Sakshi Dham , Jul, 31 2016


At least for the breast feeding issue, from a medical point of view overprolonged breast feeding (after 2years of age) causes more harm than benefit- to both parties, mother and child( not anymore an infant!!). It drains the mothers nutritional reserves, energy sleep, and time presumably allotted for pursuing ambitions!! For the Breast feeding "child", little nutritional benefit is gained whilst at the expense of obliterating other nutritional sources, besides an ugly addiction( that we have seen in private clinics), and relatively then insignificant immunity benefit whilst the childs immune system( of a normal child) had sufficiently matured by 2years, to stand on its own. Remember also, mothers milk is poor in vitaminD while that latter is needed from vegetables and legumes, and physical activity-curbed by breastfeeding addiction, and evidently it gets poorer as the mother is drained further. Who knows moreover, what psychosexual impact this brings, on a more grown up child( at 2years)- who already knows his gender and genitalia difference. That all, let alone the unappreciated impact on a husband or partner!! I think at such a delayed child age, breast feeding is summed up as unhealthy, and persistence on the side of the mother may stir unusual stigmata on that relation- of course not overlooking the extreme difficulty of weaning from breast feeding while it had advanced so extensively till the age of 2 years for a child.
At least for the breast feeding issue, from a medical point of view overprolonged breast feeding (after 2years of age) causes more harm than benefit- to both parties, mother and child( not anymore an infant!!). It drains the mothers nutritional reserves, energy sleep, and time presumably allotted fo


Vatsala Sharma , Jul, 31 2016


It is the dynamics of the relationship of the parents to each other and the child, that will fashion the outcome of the childs personality. If those relationships are fractured, regardless of the principles of parenting followed by them, the child will carry those issues. This applies to single parents as well. You may struggle to bring up a child on your own, doing the best you can for them. They may have a father or mother that is in the picture and they may get regular contact with them. If the relationship doesnt work between you all, the tenet counts for nothing. So be it tough love, attachment parenting, or a middle ground between them, what ever makes the relationships work for you all, thats the right one for your child.
It is the dynamics of the relationship of the parents to each other and the child, that will fashion the outcome of the childs personality. If those relationships are fractured, regardless of the principles of parenting followed by them, the child will carry those issues. This applies to single p


swati , Jul, 31 2016


Attachment Theory was developed by John Bowlby in the 50s and researched by Mary Ainsworth. Bowlby was interested in distinguishing health from unhealthy forms of attachment between parent and child. Whether he would think the Sears Attachment Parenting was healthy or unhealthy is an open question. In any event, there is a distinction between keeping children close because they are happy that way and desire it and keeping them close because we feel pain at their maturation and increased desires for independence and choice. Bowlby evaluated parent-child attachment on a case by case basis, and so should we. One size does not fit all.
Attachment Theory was developed by John Bowlby in the 50s and researched by Mary Ainsworth. Bowlby was interested in distinguishing health from unhealthy forms of attachment between parent and child. Whether he would think the Sears Attachment Parenting was healthy or unhealthy is an open question.


Suhani Singh , Inquisitive snobbish arrogant. I am Golum and Jul, 31 2016


We didnt feel the AP approach was for us, we felt it would be too stifling on me and exclude my husband. We actually followed elements of Ford. Our tiny little newborn turns 3 next month, and hes a happy, confident, sociable and polite little boy. Due to my job, I am aware of attachment theory and I am comfortable that he has secure attachment to me, his father and other relevant people in his life. Our attitude to parenting a newborn was full belly, clean bum, the rest will fall into place. He was bottle fed, slept in his own room before 6 months and went to nursery at 8 months as I went back to work as a teacher. He slept well even pre-weaning (@17 weeks - hungry chap) and eats nearly everything I put in front of him, and I didnt do baby-led weaning. Would I have this type of child with AP? Who knows, but the fact that hes turning out as I would have hoped so far indicates to me that hes a happy and thriving child. The fact that both my husband and myself are on the same page regarding parenting styles, as many families undoubtedly are, means that little man has consistency and knows the score, because we both do the same thing, every time. That means we are secure in what we are doing and trying to achieve, enabling us to be a strong, secure team, and that surely a safe, secure environment is the ideal for any child, regardless of who parents them, and regardless of which theory people follow?
We didnt feel the AP approach was for us, we felt it would be too stifling on me and exclude my husband. We actually followed elements of Ford. Our tiny little newborn turns 3 next month, and hes a happy, confident, sociable and polite little boy. Due to my job, I am aware of attachment theory and I


Ananyaa Sehgal , Jul, 31 2016


I think it depends on the circumstances and values within the family. From a pragmatic perspective, I first came across a woman breastfeeding a 4 year old child when I worked in a womens hostel. Her child stood next to her chair breastfeeding while we held a case conference about him. She explained that she had a very low income, so breastfeeding the youngest children for as long as possible helped with her household budget. This is the case in most poor countries around the world. The same with beds - why spend money on separate beds when a family can share one big one? From a values perspective, it is up to the family what values they want to use as a basis for family life. If people believe that attachment parenting creates loving and sharing individuals then there are worse values to have in our supposedly liberal society. It also depends on the individual child - some want to be close while others strike out for early independence. It is up to the parents to take note of their childrens individual needs and act accordingly. I dont know why so many people are bothered about it, so long as the parents are putting their childrens needs first and adapting what they do as their children grow older.
I think it depends on the circumstances and values within the family. From a pragmatic perspective, I first came across a woman breastfeeding a 4 year old child when I worked in a womens hostel. Her child stood next to her chair breastfeeding while we held a case conference about him. She explained