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Zainab Batool , "To be happy for others and to make others ha Sep, 29 2016

Is Marriage as beneficial for women as for men?


Landmark research by University College London, the London School of Economics and The London School of Hygiene and Tropical Medicine found that single women do not suffer the same negative health effects as unmarried men.

In fact, middle aged women who had never married had virtually the same chance of developing metabolic syndrome – a combination of diabetes, high blood pressure and obesity - as married women.

(http://www.telegraph.co.uk/science/2016/03/14/marriage-is-more-beneficial-for-men-than-women-study-shows/)


I guess that is so true for the typical arranged marriages in Indo-Pak region. Women are happy, working, studying, doing what they want to and living their lives until....one day the guy's family sends in "RISHTA" and all her independence is perished. She will have to ask her husband-to-be for everything she has to do, and not only that she has to be answerable to mother-in-law, father-in-law, sister-in-law etc etc.

Landmark research by University College London, the London School of Economics and The London School of Hygiene and Tropical Medicine found that single women do not suffer the same negative health effects as unmarried men. In fact, middle aged women who had never married had virtually the same chance of developing metabolic syndrome – a combination of diabetes, high blood pressure and obesity - as married women.(http://www.telegraph.co.uk/science/2016/03/14/marriage-is-more-beneficial-for-men-than-women-study-shows/) I guess that is so true for the typical arranged marriages in Indo-Pak region. Women are happy, working, studying, doing what they want to and living their lives until....one day the guy's family sends in "RISHTA" and all her independence is perished. She will have to ask her husband-to-be for everything she has to do, and not only that she has to be answerable to mother-in-law, father-in-law, sister-in-law etc etc.

Nilesh Pathak , Pursuing MS, CMU Sep, 29 2016


marriage is pretty bad. not just for women but for men too. The problem with marriage is it currently punishes men.

There is no right way or wrong way to do things. The world and its continuous technological progress will keep moving forward regardless of your social conditions.

The concept of the ideal family is subjective. The Spartans did not believe in the idea of family. The children of Sparta were owned by the state. And these children did not know their fathers while they were stripped from their mothers as early as 7 yrs old. To them. Children needed to be stoic and disciplined.

Not saying the above fascist life style is correct. But only that there is no right or wrong way to doing things.

marriage is pretty bad. not just for women but for men too. The problem with marriage is it currently punishes men. There is no right way or wrong way to do things. The world and its continuous technological progress will keep moving forward regardless of your social conditions. The concept of the


Shweta Bajpai , Blogger at Indiblogger. Mother. Student forev Sep, 29 2016


As ahmed mentioned, marriages are causing biological hazard has no real data but it is definitely a social hazard. Patriarchy in our system is one of the causes but I believe if both the partners consider marriage as following they will live a blessed life:

1.) Marriage is a covenant vow. Its a promise. Its a promise of fidelity.

2.) Marriage about love on a deep level. Its about being with someone through ups and downs. Its about developing a relationship that can sustain those.

3.) Marriage also helps ensure that kids have stability in terms of their parental relationships. As the great philosopher Whitney Houston once said, "The children are our future." [its hard to let that sink in enough]

4.) Further, there are economic benefits that marriage confers on the community. That is to say you benefit in ways you don't even know from healthy and stable marriages around you.

5.) And more importantly, there are also a number of relational and emotional benefits for both members of the marriage as well as the kids in terms of stability as well as other indicators in their lives.

As ahmed mentioned, marriages are causing biological hazard has no real data but it is definitely a social hazard. Patriarchy in our system is one of the causes but I believe if both the partners consider marriage as following they will live a blessed life: 1.) Marriage is a covenant vow. Its a pr


Nupur Agrawal , On a spiritual journey of solitude. Sep, 29 2016


Here is my take on the marriage idea, coming from a woman who has lead, in my opinion, every form of life a person can lead through today. The foundation of commitment between two people is love. I know it sounds corny and cheesy but it is love. True, trusting love. Some people believe in love so deep and profound like this. Some people don't. Some people are better able to mask those feelings. Some people aren't. I have been the fool that loves like no other. So deep that it hurts to write this post (insert sad sappy tears). Why? Because I believe in the fairy tale. Sorry, it is corny but I do believe in principle the essence of being with another person. Devoted to another person. Living life with another person through all of the ups and downs. When I am with someone, I consider them my husband my position even though the title may not be there yet. Because the general concept of marriage to me is important even though my past life, it was far from the fairy tale. And being married to multiple people doesn't sit right with me. For a long time, I was even bothered with the idea of bearing a child with another man (but I have let that go recently).
Here is my take on the marriage idea, coming from a woman who has lead, in my opinion, every form of life a person can lead through today. The foundation of commitment between two people is love. I know it sounds corny and cheesy but it is love. True, trusting love. Some people believe in love so


Zainab Batool , "To be happy for others and to make others ha Sep, 29 2016


I don't agree with you; I don't think life is a fairytale. Even when you plan it with someone you love, society or our Indo-Pak marriages ruin that. The guy's family doesnot approve of you from day one and you are their son's wife only. You will never get the love you once did at your own home. Also they will make sure to ruin all of your precious moments.
I don't agree with you; I don't think life is a fairytale. Even when you plan it with someone you love, society or our Indo-Pak marriages ruin that. The guy's family doesnot approve of you from day one and you are their son's wife only. You will never get the love you once did at your own home. Also


Shantanu Kothuri , Proud BITSian, [email protected] Sep, 29 2016


Strangely, I agree with Zainab and Nupur both of you.

Love is surely the foundation of everything. everything you do, you create , you learn, you belong to. Without love life is a misery.

But the reality is there are miseries too and Zainab said here. Life is not going to be a bed of roses. But love overcomes all the miseries and gives ecstatic pleasure of this mortal life, Zainab.

Strangely, I agree with Zainab and Nupur both of you. Love is surely the foundation of everything. everything you do, you create , you learn, you belong to. Without love life is a misery.But the reality is there are miseries too and Zainab said here. Life is not going to be a bed of roses. But love


Syed Raza , In the quest of truth. Sep, 29 2016


This still a better scenario than your lover's family rejecting the idea of your marriage with your loved one. Things get even worse when the guy/girl is from another sect/religion/caste etc.


Ahmed Azab , Interested in history, Political science and Sep, 29 2016


You brought two perspectives here. One is biological and other social.

Biological effect has no data. Marriage as an institution is going on for centuries now, and has shown no major signs of its direct impact on someone's health.

Social effects are there and they are related to misogynistic thinking and patriarchal society rather than marriage as an institution.

You brought two perspectives here. One is biological and other social.Biological effect has no data. Marriage as an institution is going on for centuries now, and has shown no major signs of its direct impact on someone's health.Social effects are there and they are related to misogynistic thinking